As I have written before, I believe you always need balance. You need to be logical sometimes, but modern society usually emphasizes a logical or perhaps male way to go about things. Often we are told not to go with the heart or to be emotional. Recently my heart was telling my legs to go talk to someone whom I haven't spoken to besides texts for the most part for months. I wanted to also show or give him an autograph he'd find valuable. For two hours at one venue, and two hours at another venue, I did not go up to him. He was with two friends whom I was comfortable to be around, and he kept looking back at me. We have lots to talk about and blame each other for, but he seemed open at the time to talk, and it may have been the first step in a beautiful unfolding that would lead to closure or to a wonderful relationship, friendship and/or love. Yet I did not do it, even with someone pressing me to do it so I would not regret it. He seemed to stop in front of me while moving to another table, and I shot him a glare, thinking of all his past wrongs, as I did when he found me flirting with another at another venue. (I really did not like the second person but I had arrived alone.) He seemed hurt and I realized the next day that I was angry he did not text that he was willing to talk and would drive me home.
I "have to" forgive myself. We often know or read things, yet don't carry them out or act according to them. Martha Beck, in the July issue of O Magazine wrote the article "Decisions, Decisions". She wrote about one woman who spent her life avoiding what economists call opportunity cost: if you chose one mate, career, etc., you rule out others. She was deadlocked. She wrote how Spock on Star Trek would make a cost and benefits analysis, while Captain Kirk would go with the heart. One or both are appropriate at different times. I'd say to use your intuition, hopefully at its best at a given time, and go with it, or at least the next day think it over and ask your intuition again. It seems intuition can be bogged down by the past, stress and emotions, or at times it may even be helped by these. There is no clearcut "answer", but sometimes you know if you've made the best one.
She went on to write something similar to what I wrote before: "Great strategists trust both intellect and instinct; they gather information until they feel they can make a good decision. But people who try to decide with the mind alone, who place no faith in their heart's desires, are doomed to stall and fuss, compare and contrast, forever insisting that just a little more knowledge will make the choice clear." She also wrote that those who trust only their intellect take forever to make a choice, those who trust only their gut may take too many risks, and those who trust neither their intellect or gut take the path of least resistance.
She recommends the following for making decisions: 1. Check in with your body to see how you feel. She shared a yogi quote: "The body truth is ahead of the mind lie."
2. Your body may tell you that you are not spending your energy well at thinking about it at this moment or in what you are investing time in your life at this time.
She quoted from Faust: "Seize this very minute. What you can do, or dream you can do, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it."
It comes down to choosing, as she wrote, choosing actively. "Feel your mind, but feel your heart. Trust in your truth. It will be the best investment you'll ever make."
It's this one word: Choosing. Argh!
I "have to" forgive myself. We often know or read things, yet don't carry them out or act according to them. Martha Beck, in the July issue of O Magazine wrote the article "Decisions, Decisions". She wrote about one woman who spent her life avoiding what economists call opportunity cost: if you chose one mate, career, etc., you rule out others. She was deadlocked. She wrote how Spock on Star Trek would make a cost and benefits analysis, while Captain Kirk would go with the heart. One or both are appropriate at different times. I'd say to use your intuition, hopefully at its best at a given time, and go with it, or at least the next day think it over and ask your intuition again. It seems intuition can be bogged down by the past, stress and emotions, or at times it may even be helped by these. There is no clearcut "answer", but sometimes you know if you've made the best one.
She went on to write something similar to what I wrote before: "Great strategists trust both intellect and instinct; they gather information until they feel they can make a good decision. But people who try to decide with the mind alone, who place no faith in their heart's desires, are doomed to stall and fuss, compare and contrast, forever insisting that just a little more knowledge will make the choice clear." She also wrote that those who trust only their intellect take forever to make a choice, those who trust only their gut may take too many risks, and those who trust neither their intellect or gut take the path of least resistance.
She recommends the following for making decisions: 1. Check in with your body to see how you feel. She shared a yogi quote: "The body truth is ahead of the mind lie."
2. Your body may tell you that you are not spending your energy well at thinking about it at this moment or in what you are investing time in your life at this time.
She quoted from Faust: "Seize this very minute. What you can do, or dream you can do, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it."
It comes down to choosing, as she wrote, choosing actively. "Feel your mind, but feel your heart. Trust in your truth. It will be the best investment you'll ever make."
It's this one word: Choosing. Argh!
